The golden rule may get a boost when teens feel connected to others

UNIVERSITY PARK, Pa. — When teens feel a sense of belonging and being cared for, they are more likely to show compassion for others, according to a study led by Blake Colaianne, assistant research professor at Penn State’s Edna Bennett Pierce Prevention Research Center.

“We wanted to know whether students who felt as though others cared for them and were cheering for them, would be more likely to internalize that care and then give it away to others,” Colaianne said. “Interestingly, we found that the students who felt a sense of belonging were more likely to show compassion toward others.”

For the study, 599 students attending a high school in western Pennsylvania completed surveys at the beginning, middle and end of the school year. The surveys focused on their sense of being cared for and connected to others and whether they thought they showed compassion — defined by researchers as the specific motivation to understand and lessen others’ suffering — by the end of the school year. The findings were published in the Journal of Applied Development Psychology.

Colaianne said this research has implications for how high schools think about creating compassionate school environments beyond providing opportunities for volunteering or donating.  

“We could give everyone in the school — including teachers, staff and students — ways to learn about relational security and what it means to be a ‘secure base’ for each other,” Colaianne suggested, explaining that relational security is ensuring that people feel seen, heard and connected. “The pool for potential secure attachment figures bursts open in adolescence. Teens are seeking non-parental adults to root for them. They’re looking for connections in friends, coaches, mentors, teachers.”

Sometimes, teens may feel a deeper connection through other sources, such as listening to a Taylor Swift song or a walk in nature, Colainne explained.

“There’s a lot of interest right now around how to get young people to be more compassionate toward others,” Colaianne said. “It might begin by ensuring that they know we care for them, they belong here, and they are worthy of receiving care.”

The Edna Bennett Pierce Prevention Research Center supported this research. Colainne’s collaborators were Robert Roeser, Bennett Pierce Professor of Caring and Compassion at Penn State; Paul Condon, associate professor of psychology at Southern Oregon University; Michael Tumminia, graduate student in the University of Pittsburgh School of Education; and Brian Galla, associated professor of applied developmental psychology at the University of Pittsburgh.